Reflecting on my journey as a personal transformation strategist and the driving force behind Genius You, I've become familiar with many men's silent struggles.

I want to dive into a topic that might resonate with many high achievers. You know that constant itch to find the 'next big thing'? It turns out that it might not be as simple as it seems, and there's a deeper issue at play.

As a high performer the workplace has been a rewarding, thrilling and awful place for me. I have epic tales that are simply the result of a lack of understanding regarding my differences, and of how to get the best out of me. For years I turned these epic tales into experiences of shame and regret.

Workplace Conflict Through My Eyes: High Performers Acting Out or Simply Misunderstood?

While developed for everyone, Genius You is particularly powerful for a certain group that I'm currently learning to identify.

Navigating the realm of high performers here in New Zealand, I've observed a fascinating and concerning pattern. Many high-performing Kiwis, me included, have faced the pitfalls of burnout and an unsettling urge to change jobs frequently.

Stephen Martin, from Virtual Innovation www.virtualinnovation.co.nz, has been helping people with Neurodiversity for a long time! His podcast, The Truth about Dyslexia and all the work that he does is commendable, because it means for the ones who are following behind, Stephen has already forged a path.

That's more than 3,000 days that my mind has been obsessed with creating this programme. That's over 400 people that I've worked with and 17 iterations of the process that I've developed. All with the same purpose – to create a programme that allows people to be as brilliant as they wish.

As someone diagnosed with ADHD later in life, I understand the importance of realising that the diagnosis is just the beginning of a transformative journey. Now I see it as part of my mission to help individuals who discover their ADHD well into adulthood, because I know firsthand that the diagnosis is not the end of the road. It is the starting point.

The sign of a great interview is asking questions that the interviewee must think about.

Kate Nankivell from Force of Nature, https://forceofnature.co.nz/ is fantastic at this, which is why Friday Fascination is the perfect name for her recent series of LinkedIn lives.

My favourite question was, what was my proudest milestone?……

Burnout is at an all-time high, even among us New Zealanders. I've recently come across a global survey conducted by Future Forum, and it's revealed a distressing trend. Many of us are overworking ourselves and striving to achieve lofty ambitions, only to fall short in the end.

In the area of leadership and public responsibility, instances of individuals succumbing to moments of intense emotion are not isolated incidents. The pressures and expectations placed upon those in such roles can often lead to expressions of anger and frustration.

As a parent, I understand how confronting and disempowering it can be when a child refuses to follow our instructions or those of their teachers. Most of us tend to revert to some form of punishment to get compliance. However, I believe that there is another way to approach this situation. Instead of seeing a child's defiance as a bad thing, we can view it as a legitimate form of learning for the child.

Male suicide and depression rates could be drastically reduced—and men could get more out of their relationships—if they were permitted to use their emotions the same way as women. Men are twice as likely
to commit suicide as women, and that needs to change.

Christmas is called the crazy season for most people because underlining the traffic and the stress is a layer of heightened emotion and expectations that don't match reality which leads to family blow-outs, hurt and anger--particularly when you pull a bunch of people together at family gatherings.

The top skill Kiwi workers will need to develop in the workplace now and in the future is a healthy mind.

It’s unlikely that unfavourable working conditions like low pay, demanding schedules, and even a drop in immigration, are solely to blame for growing staff shortages in the hospitality sector. Those conditions have always existed and did not deter people in the past.

Sagas such as that of Labour MP Gaurav Sharma and other stories about bullies and bullying will continue to make headlines in New Zealand until people are taught the mental skills they need to protect themselves—and for as long as we continue to shame, expel, and punish the bullies themselves.

I went to a wonderful presentation on Friday, that was put on  by  @CreativeMorningsAKL. It’s a clever initiative that is enjoyed around the world.

Self-belief is knowing that we can do something with confidence and conviction. It’s that important quality that allows us to bat away self-doubt and rise to the occasion.